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Thursday, April 29, 2010

One Step Forward, Another Step back~

This rollercoaster is really taking us for a ride!  I feel like just when we think there is progress, another roadblock pops up.  After going to court and getting guardianship, one must go to the embassy and file an I600.  A few months ago we started the process of embassy paperwork and put Shawn on an important document stating that he is the Petitioner and I am the Petitioner's spouse.  I had been told by others that when it comes time for the embassy appt. either the Petitioner, or the Petitioner's spouse could go to file the I600.  I was wrong.  Since Shawn is the petitioner, he must go.  This changes things.   We had planned on him going to court, and if things were dragging on I would switch him and go to the Embassy appt.  We can't do that now.  It's a done deal.  He has to do it all.  This is crazy scary as he can't miss that much work!  We are self employed and I'm wondering how we can make it work.  The only real option is that he may have to fly back and forth to Uganda several times....................can you imagine???  We don't really have a choice, so I'm "sucking it up" and trusting in the Lord.  There is no way I would get through this without Him.  He started this process when he planted a seed in our hearts and I believe he will finish it!! 

There has been another roadblock as far as visa's are concerned.  Praying that things will be worked out by the time we go, otherwise there will be an even longer delay in getting our boy home.  Our attorney has been promising for a month that our application will be submitted, still waiting.  When it is I will probably run around my neighborhood singing at the top of my lungs!  O.k. maybe not.  Filing the application is just one step in this uphill battle.  I've reached the point several times in the last week where I feel like I just can't do this anymore.  The up, down, play by play in this journey takes a toll, but then I alway get up and fight even harder!  I won't give up.  I feel so blessed to have a man by my side who listens to his heart.  We are on this journey because of him.  I never asked him to adopt, it was his thankful that he is a caring, feeling man.  Sometimes I laugh when people post mushy things about their spouse.  I think, "Why post? Why not tell him to his face?"  I think I'll do that, take my own advice that is!
Monday, April 26, 2010

I 171 Approval

Two weeks from fingerprint date we received the I171 approval.  It will be cabled to the US Embassy in Uganda so we are clear to go on that end..................Yeah!
Sunday, April 25, 2010

Sundays...........Always a hard day with a touch of joy.

There is nothing sweeter than listening to our American children talking on the phone to our African child.  The conversation goes something like this.  Benson-"Hi Joseph, how are you"?  Joseph "I am fine.  How is basketball"? Benson "Good. How is football"?  "Good".  Joseph, "I am missing you".  Benson, "I am missing you too"? "I love you", "I love you too".  Benson talks in this soft, high, sing-song voice with a fake Ugandan accent.  It's really cute.  Every Sunday all of us talk to Joseph.  Every Sunday, we miss him and he misses us.  This week has been very disappointing.  Promises were made, we were told things we wanted to hear.  We're not any closer to answers than we were a month ago.  It's frustrating.  I've done my part and now we are waiting on others.  I don't know how many more Sundays I will have to make that call where I hear, "Mom, when are you coming?  I am waiting for you".  We never have the answer when he asks, I hope we will soon.
Sunday, April 18, 2010


One thing I've learned to do this year is stay awake late so that I can call Uganda when people are actually awake!  I waited up to night to call our attorney, P and I struck gold.  He answered his phone and I actually got some answers.  Without going into details, there are a few things that are frustrating but I have to  let them be.  I will just chalk it up to Uganda "time".  But, Hilda, my trusted friend and helper in this is going to meet with P today and he is asking for her help to do a few things.  He said once those are done he will then file the petition.  If she can do it quickly, the application will be filed this week and Shawn will most likely travel beginning/mid May.  Nothing in Uganda is done quickly, so, trying not to get my hopes up.  On a lighter note, talked to Joseph today.  He went back to Mama Dorothy's for a few days as school let out for holiday.  He was very "sad" as again, his belongings were stolen.  Most important on the list was his Ipod.  My dear friend "Aunt" Suzanne left her Ipod with him and he loves it. He couldn't take it to school so it was left with Mama Dorothy for safe keeping.  Shawn sent a message to the boy who stole it and let him know he was coming in a few weeks and he expected it to be returned immediately.  We'll see.  This is the same boy that steals everything we give Joseph.  He is quite a bit older and has turned out to be quite the little swindler.  I try not to be mad at him as he has had a very hard life and I do care for him................anyway, Shawn and Joseph will be searching for Fiona and Jeffrey his younger siblings when they go.   Right now, we don't know where they are.  We feel a heavy sense of responsiblity to help them..........................don't you just love that name? Fiona?  I bet she's a doll!

June 2009 Looking Back…………….

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Saying Good-bye……….June 2009, Yes, I’m Crying!

Thursday, April 15, 2010


While we were in Northern Uganda Joseph had the opportunity to meet Acholi people.  They look quite different from him, and speak another language.  Joseph made friends quickly.  This is a young man (he is in a wheelchair but you can't tell) that Joseph got to know.  He lives at St. Jude's orphanage when he is not in school attending University.

Cautiously Optimistic

For the last 2 months, the status of IR4 immigrant visas has been at a standstill.  Although we have been pressing forward full steam ahead we knew that until the visa situation was sorted out, we may not get Joseph home in time before he turns 16.  Well, below is an update from the US State Department's website.  It sounds like there may be a chance that as long as our order is written by the judge to state specific things, we may be able to get the visa.  This could be very good news.  It sounds too good to be true, so we are remaining cautious.  The last few days have been some of the hardes in the whole process.  We are working to get through them.  We have decided to have Shawn travel to Uganda.  This is going to be very difficult for us in many ways.  Since he is self employed we have no "vacation" time.  We ask for your prayers during this time.  Pray for a quick court date, pray for the visa situation, and mostly pray for Joseph.  He has been very sick. 

Status of Adoptions from Uganda

April 15, 2010

United States Citizenship and Immigration Service (USCIS) regulations in 8 CFR 204.3(d) require that, in order for Petition to Classify an Orphan as an Immediate Relative (Form I-600) filed by prospective adoptive parent(s) to be approved, the prospective adoptive parent(s) must provide proof of a full and final adoption or custody of the child for emigration and adoption abroad in accordance with the laws of the foreign-sending country.

The Government of Uganda advised the U.S. Embassy in Kampala on March 16, 2010 that legal orders for guardianship issued by Ugandan courts that do not contain specific language authorizing emigration and overseas adoption should not be construed as sufficient to allow Ugandan children to depart Uganda to be adopted abroad. In the past, the U.S. Government has treated Ugandan guardianship orders that did not contain such language as sufficient to underpin the approval of the I-600 petition and immigrant visa, but based upon this clarification from the Government of Uganda, explicit language authorizing emigration and adoption abroad must now be included. Effective immediately, if an I-600 is filed with a guardianship order that does not include authorization for emigration and adoption abroad, the petition will not be approvable unless or until the petitioners are able to provide a corrected guardianship document.
Thursday, April 8, 2010

I Will Be Right Here Waiting................

When we were in Uganda Joseph often listened to music on our drivers phone.  It wasn't very loud, so you would often see him holding it up to his ear.  We were in the car A LOT!  Sometimes, the music on the phone would get a little old, that is, until we realized that he was listening to the same song over, and over.  When we realized why he was listening to the song, he was thinking about us, it was really emotional.  Here we are, ready to leave him, again and he was clinging to the song.  Not all of the words apply, but the part that says, "I'll be right here waiting for you" really hits home. 

Oceans apart day after day
And I slowly go insane
I hear your voice on the line
But it doesn't stop the pain

Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you